Men who refuse to pursue women outside of marriage will never lead inside of marriage.
I decided to go online to meet men because the men I was surrounded by were gluttonous, slothful, and refused to pursue. When I got online, I discovered an even greater number of gluttonous men who still would not even pursue, but, even more so, were exceptionally self-righteous, judgmental, and had standards even higher than I could make.
If you are a man on Christian Mingle and you think you are Godly, why are you not pursuing women, but instead waiting for them to smile or message you? No! That is lazy and not what a leader inside the home does. You need to “risk” rejection and message first or you are not acting like a biblical leader.
1 Timothy 3:5 says, “If someone does not know how to manage his household, how will he care for God’s church.” This passage regarding church leadership equally applies to all men. If you are not married, your “House” is not only how you manage your finances and your employment and your behavior; but how you manage your body. If you lack the discipline and self-control to stop self-indulging and overeating, how can you lead a woman in a disciplined manner or how can you indulge in her when you are showing that your preference is self-indulgence? Losing weight is more about diet than exercise. So, the excuse of, “I don’t have time to lose weight,” is not true—everyone has time to abstain from overeating. Leaders don’t make excuses.
Dating women who are biologically young enough to be your daughter is about self-indulgence in sexual fulfillment. Don’t pretend its anything otherwise. Most women do not like men contacting them on line with such an age difference. Some men will say, “Hey, I’m just being open to what God will provide to me!” I say, if that were actually true you would seek women as many years older than you than younger; yet, consistently these same men will browse women 10-15 years younger but no more than two years older. Godly men will pursue women within their generation, not outside of their generation. And this is where I will momentarily digress from the topic; Many men will respond, “Hey, Boaz married Ruth and he was honorable!” Well, you are TOTALLY missing the point of honor in Boaz. It wasn’t because of his age difference, it was because he would have had to raise “Another Man’s Child!” Any children Ruth had would be considered from Ruth’s first husband, not Boaz’s loins–that is why the Closest of Kin to Ruth changed his mind and didn’t want to marry a hot babe because she came with “child” strings attached. Ruth was essentially a single mom. But as I said, I digress.
The behavior of women is never an issue. If you are a Godly man, you will love like Christ loved the church and love like Hosea loved Gomer–even in her ugly, rotten, unfaithful character.
Men, you have got to stop making excuses and start acting like men. Take back your manhood from those rotten, feminist men-haters! Don’t let godless people in our culture decide for you how men should act–Let biblical truth decide for you. Now is the time for action for the days are evil. The buck stops with you!